In the Bible, the word pride is actually hubris and refers to honouring self-will above God’s will. That is food for thought. Biblical humility is being rooted in the character and nature of God. In order to exercise true humility, one must be deeply connected to God. Know God and his love.
A word to Parents
To the parent who allows their children to rule and reign, you are not doing them any favours! There is a reason God says Honour your Mother and Father and it will go well with you. Teaching them to Honour you as the parent is teaching them how to honour God. This simple basic truth helps them in adulthood not to be arrogant bastards! When parents make their children the centre of the universe they are teaching them how to be a narcissist as an adult! Egocentric and selfish! Not considerate of others!
But when you say no to your children, when you don’t try to entertain them every waking moment of every single day and they have to learn things like patience and perseverance. They learn to trust God for things. No, I don’t have money for your piano lessons Jonny, pray and ask God to provide. They do NOT need a lot of friends. They need to learn that God is their friend first! All I am saying here is God first!
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Teach your children to consider others above themselves. NO, it is not easy! But if you want them to grow up and be kind adults it is absolutely necessary! Teach your children to be inclusive. To look out for the lonely and the shy. The bible says we must teach these things to our children. We cannot leave them to tend to these things by themselves. We have to give them the tools they need to cope on the playground. Teach them to stand up to bullies, to be confident in who they are in Christ, to be kind, that their value is in Jesus not in material things or in how others treat them.
“Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
A word about coarse joking
I find arrogant people are the ones who tend to constantly make fun of others. They always have a critical spirit. Putting everyone else down to make themselves feel important. You will know them by their fruit.
A humble man will lift others up always!. A humble man will encourage always! If Jesus, being God could humble himself and come to earth as a baby, how much more should we humble ourselves? To be humble is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. You do not have to be a walkover, you just have to not think of yourself too highly!
“God has given me grace to speak a warning about pride. I would ask each of you to be emptied of self-promotion and not create a false image of your importance. Instead, honestly assess your worth by using your God-given faith as the standard of measurement, and then you will see your true value with appropriate self-esteem.”
Rom 12:3 TPT
There is always that one guy that thinks he is funny by making rude comments, usually aimed at women. What I want to say to you is that no one thinks you funny, they just tolerate you. They exercise grace towards you. The grace that you so lack for others.
“God opposes the proud
but shows favour to the humble.”
“Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this, you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them. For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.”
I know my tone may seem harsh but I abhor bullies! I have had to deal with them enough in my life! It takes nothing to be kind. These are people who will pick on those seemingly weaker, women, special needs children, the elderly. They act differently to people in positions of power. At the end of the day, I do stand up for myself and those around me but I can’t protect everyone, its not my job, its God’s and his vindication is so much bigger than mine would ever be.