How do we raise kind humans when as moms, we face criticism and judgement all the time? We can handle it to some extent. Whether it be good or bad, we handle it. We are able to overcome, be the bigger person or whatever. But what really upsets me is when that criticism affects my kids. We all think teenagers are tough and resilient but they are not. They are still finding out who they are. They think they know everything but they do not, they need our guidance.
That Stepford wife smile
I had a situation recently when another teenage child upset mine by calling him dumb and making fun of him because he can’t read properly. My son is Aspergers and has dyslexia. When I approached the mom, her reaction was basically boys will be boys and we must let them sort it out. She did this with a Stepford wife smile on her face! You know the type. The passive aggressive, fake type, who smiles and says all the right things but her actions just do not match her words.
Needless to say, I was horrified, not only that my son wouldn’t get an apology but also that she just had no idea what parenting means. It means we have to teach our kids to be better humans. We have to guide them. We have to make them accountable for their actions. I’m not saying kids have to be perfect. I am saying when they fail or wrong someone that we have to be there as parents to teach them in the way they should go.
What it means to be a parent
“Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it. “
The Definition of Parenting according to Wikipedia:
Parenting or child-rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child
A parent is there is rear them, nurture them, raise them. Parents are involved in their children’s lives. We are not there to be there friends although that does happen if we parent first. Setting boundaries and saying No! If we leave them to their own devices we will have a Lord of the flies situation on our hands.
I have had other situations where one boy became very arrogant and started talking down to all the children in our group. Telling them all their clothes were no cool enough etc. When I approached his mom she refused to do anything about it. If that was my son I would want to know so I could help my son to be kinder towards those who may be less fortunate than him.
Hey moms! Here are some tips to help us raise kind humans
If we do not teach them, who will? The village? Hey I have seen the village and I don’t want it raising my child, that is my job.