Well this isn’t a good start as a realise I am wearing my shirt inside out! you could say I am a little flustered! Sitting in church yesterday was all about not complaining, and today this is exactly what I am doing! Epic Fail! What do other parents do when their children are excluded from a party?
My sons entire group of friends were invited to a child’s party by the mother and my son was excluded unapologetically. We are not going to always get along with everyone but we should never take it out on the kids! This is so wrong on so many levels! I like to think I can be all ‘adulty’ about this and just agree to disagree but I may be acting out passive aggressively by writing this article.
Look, here were the other solutions that went racing through my adrenaline pumped mind. Not saying I did all of them but the thoughts were there!
7 things you could do if your child is excluded from a party
Whatsapp the ‘evil’ mother with words of profanity
I realised ,that wouldn’t be too mature a response as much as I would love to do it! It would not accomplish anything, just raise my blood levels and make me look bad!She would probably block me from social media and then I couldn’t stalk her pages , ha ha 🙂 just kidding…..or am I?
Get all your friends to boycott the party
Little does this mom realise the power that I have to totally ruin her child’s party, but I would NEVER do that! It is so wrong to let any issues, that adults have with one another, to affect the children! She may have taken a knock at my boy and this mama bear is mad, but I will not stoop to her level!
Lambasting the mom all over social media
Yes, this would feel great at the time! Venting and all that! You know those very blatant Naming and Shaming posts! Or even the ones where you say a whole lot with out really saying anything! You use hints and cleverly phrased words , so that the right people know exactly who you are talking about, without being sued! Again, it would just add fuel to the fire and bring no solution. So No not that. I may post to ask for advice though, I need all the help I can get!
Arrive at the party anyway (it’s in a public park)
Mmmm its a tough one! So tempted, I am still deciding on this one! What can she say or do? Absolutely nothing. I could sit at the coffee shop and have coffee while my son plays with the kids at the park, he wont know he wasn’t invited and its a win!plus the look on her face when I arrive would be priceless. But no I think I have to face this problem by letting it go.
Pray for her
This would be the more acceptable response, as the bible says to pray for your enemies and turn the other cheek. I’m very torn as I know this is what I should do but my struggle is real! I’m only human, a loving mom that is deeply concerned for her child and I hate injustices. At the end of the day she has to answer to the same God as me. As long as I am content with the way I behave,I can only be held accountable for the way I handle a bad situation. I cannot freak out over the things I cannot control! It is in God’s hands.
Explain to your child the unfairness of life
A difficult one, and its not like my son has not had his share of disappointments. This is more like a rejection. The sad thing is we all going to face that in life,whether it be friend circles or job offers, we have to be secure in who we are! Its OK to not be invited to every party! He isn’t a bad kid. He has lots of other friends. Its going to be OK, He can see his friends any other time! And you know what I will tell him to invite these kids to his party even though they didn’t invite him to theirs! Life isn’t about retaliation! No , Always be true to yourself. Be kind, Stand up for yourself when need be.
Have your own party
I have to give this a little more thought but I will do something with him instead! We can make it special and do something fun ,totally getting his mind off one irrelevant, unkind person. I can take him for a milkshake, a movie or to SPCA to see the Dogs. He loves to do that. He will even be happy if I just spend the morning playing a board game with him.
“A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.” Agatha Christie
What are your thoughts? How would you handle this situation? Please leave your comments below.